QUOTE (crxls @ Mar 17 2006, 08:07 PM)
QUOTE (desperado57 @ Mar 17 2006, 06:25 PM)
i can understand people not wanting tattoos for themselves but it's seems kind of arrogant to try to tell another person, esp. one you "love" not to get one because you dont like it in the grand scheam (sp?) of things it really shouldn't matter it would be like telling a significant other to "get out" because you dont like the haircut they just got.. and i know what you detractors will say well a haircut isn't permenant but then if something like a tattoo is gonna come between you and your loved one mabey your really not in love
ok, since this comment ^^^ is obviously aimed toward badpenny and myself i feel that i have to make my point (and im sure badpenny's point will be very similar) and defend our side.
im my case my wife knew way before she got the tat how much i dont like them (especially on women) and how unattractive i think they are. the point was very clear and i even told her that if she followed through with it that she would have to pack up and head out. she is the one that didnt care about the relationship because she came home with the tat afterall. it wasnt because the tat meant anything more than getting a tat to her. she thought it was a pretty picture that her friend liked. all came down to peer pressure and trying to please her mother and friend more than myself.
now in badpenny's case it sounds like his wife did it for spite all because she was pissed off at him. i hope for him that he did get that strange pussy the wife was so worried about just as payment for having to look at a tat that he hates every day.
now you tell me where the arrogance was at in the relationships.
at the risk of making an enemy of ones who are respected here i will say, the arrogance still lies with the two of you... do you pick her clothes for her as well? must all things be approved by you? are the people in your lives not individuals? it IS arrogant to try to impose your will on another person... long argument short, it's her body and to each their own if i was her i would start to question your level of commitment if physical appearance is so important.
badpenny, you say that you did not marry your wife to have her change yet change is a natural progression for human development. it is an undenighable (sp?) fact of life that people change... i will say thought that in your case if she did get the tattoo only to spite you then it is a petty and childish thing to do yet you can most likely take solace in the fact that down the road she'll probably not like it either! especially when you two are still together.
it is not my intention to make enemies esp here i've only been around a short time yet i come here everyday and hope to make friends.. this is only my opinion
BTW to any and all that are considering a tat... no drugs no alcohol going in if you cannot take the pain then you do not deserve the tattoo the pain is the REAL price of the work nothing comes for free even free tattoos the pain associated with it is the right of passage... whitch coincidentally it the thought process of many cultures where tattooing is important
eric